How long does it take to get a refusing parent to accept care?

Variable. Some families succeed in 1-2 weeks. Others take 2-3 months of patient introduction. The key factor is consistency — same carer, regular visits, no pressure. Persistence usually wins.

What if my parent locks the door?

Frustrating but recoverable. The carer goes away, doesn't escalate, and the next visit is rearranged with you present to introduce them. Sometimes the trigger was confusion and a phone call beforehand prevents recurrence.

What if accusations of theft start?

Common in moderate-stage dementia. Almost always misplacement (your parent has hidden the item and can't remember where). Reputable providers handle this professionally with calm responses and a clear log of items in the home.

Should I tell my parent about the dementia diagnosis?

This is contested territory. Some families find honesty is best; others find their parent becomes more depressed and resistant when they remember the diagnosis. The conversation often needs to be had multiple times because your parent forgets.

Do I need Lasting Power of Attorney?

Yes, ideally before it's too late. Set up Lasting Power of Attorney for both Health & Welfare and Property & Financial Affairs before your parent loses mental capacity.

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